Those who want to free themselves from negative emotions and stressful thoughts usually use one of 2 ways: either they seek help from a third party or they try to help themselves.
Those who choose to see a coach take the first approach and seek advice from an outsider. Anyone who decides to do self-coaching wants to get themselves out of a predicament. Whichever path he chooses, it is usually accompanied by a desire to do it immediately. For those who have made the decision to change something, in most cases want the change to happen immediately. So why wait?
In self-coaching, there is no reason to wait. Coaching with a coach for the first time is different. Because now it is necessary to answer special questions:
Questions about coaching with the coach
- Who can help me?
- Do I know a coach or someone who can recommend a coach?
- Is this coach suitable for my request?
- Do I reach my coach now, at this moment, and does he have time for me now?
- How long do I have to wait for an appointment with my coach?
- How long do I want to wait for an appointment? After all, what does it mean to me if I have to wait days or even weeks for an appointment with my coach?
Those who have found the right coach for themselves and their personal concerns, who can offer appointments in a timely manner, thus have the right contact person for the profound issues. Because, of course, for some topics the professional “top view” of a coach or a therapist is highly recommended or even unavoidable. (Read also the Important Information)
Very well suited for self-coaching are just our everyday sensitivities
Often, however, it is precisely the small and recurring stresses of everyday life that get to us, but which we do not assume to be sufficiently explosive to talk about them with a coach, let alone spend money on them. Which is a pity! Because precisely these small issues often reflect the sore points of our being. Here in particular, it is worthwhile to exert a positive influence through self-coaching.
In such cases, EMDR self-coaching is an excellent way to work through the acute issue within a few minutes in a self-coaching session. We do not have to wait and can use our involvement immediately and unadulterated. We pick up what is and work with it.
With the help of the EMDR goggles REMSTIM 3000, for example, 2-3 applications with a duration of 30 seconds each often help to open up to a new perspective on the subject and thus to calm and reorganize one’s own emotions. And what’s a minute and a half of “guided eye training” compared to a day full of bad moods?
Of course, self-coaching also comes with questions. Anyone who wants to coach themselves might want to answer the following questions:
Self coaching questions
- Is it my own free choice to coach myself on this topic?
- Am I currently resilient enough to withstand any extra stresses that may arise while I am coaching my subject self?
- Do I feel myself to be in a mentally and emotionally stable condition?
- Do I want to work through the stressful issue on my own in an EMDR self-coaching session without professional help from a coach or therapist?
Finally, we must not forget that the use of EMDR in the past has often shown that the method can bring about positive changes in us just in a sustainable way. According to the functional model of EMDR, even the smallest mini-traumatizations from the past, which unfortunately often manifest themselves in our stressful states of mind, can be addressed and resolved in particular. Our own fears of everyday life can thus be reduced in many cases and resulting barriers to action can finally be torn down. New paths then usually open up all by themselves. (see also Stimulation Effects of EMDR).
So the recommendation is: The daily use of Rapid Eye Movement Stimulation maintains and strengthens our emotional and mental constitution in a noticeable way. And what then still “sticks” and even thereby only comes to light, can be discussed at the special appointment with the personal coach!